INFP and expectations

I found that we have expectations and high expectations in everything. Every response we seek when we talk to our partner, every call we expect from our friends, every praise we expect from our boss after some overtime work. IF it happens so that we got the response we expected, then the sun is shining, and we feel like the happiest person on earth, but when we don't get our expectation fulfilled, we will feel instantly depressed.

If we put some common sense into this concept, it is very clear that things just don't work like this.

Another problem which I think INFPs have is the need to acquire 'best friends'. The process of fishing (yes, it sounds like a negative word) for potential 'best friend' candidate is very strict and detailed. On the first meet, if we feel comfortable talking to this new friend, if we can crack a few jokes to this new person, then they have passed our initial screening. Then it gets very complicated... because indeed we don't want friends we can just 'talk' to, we need friends we can communicate our feelings and expect them to understand our deep emotions. Now seriously, how difficult would this be? We're imagining that every other friend we meet to be the other half of the apple.
Then after several meets with this new friend, we tend to start judging and evaluating his/her opinions expressed, the things she/he does which may not fit into our criteria - then we think: nah! that's NOT the one...
Most people use this filter process when searching for their loved ones, but not with friends. But INFPs may tend to do that with everybody..

I think I have learnt my lesson, that by doing so I am only going to make myself a loner.. unless I am lucky enough to meet my soulmates/best friends. But again, this just means that our happiness is so much dependent on others, that one true friend, that close intimacy with the partner, the smiles on other people's faces when we talk..

So.. maybe it's OK to have friends who are indifferent to us, maybe it's better to have friends who thinks differently, maybe it generates more creative juice if we crossover with other personalities and that we can learn from them. Maybe we should cut down our expectations and be satisfied more easily rather than always picture a scenario which we want the consequence to fit into that imaginary scenario.

Maybe if we try this, then we will feel more happier.. to some degree.